I wonder if theres a term for someone who is constantly happy, giving, and sweet all the time. Ive heard many classifications and terms such as desperate, total psycho, unhealthy, fake, and unhappy but never one that can be agreed upon. Maybe its just general misconception from the general public and the majority of us are just jealous and truly unhappy with our lives. But either way, we all know at least one person that fits into this category. You know the one person at your work, school, club, or friend of a friend who nobody hates because you cant really find anything to hate them for unless its for being too nice. Youve never seen them mad, angry, or even frustrated; its as if their not even human. But deep down you know that they are and that they probably have issues and obstacles just like any one of us, so you wonder how they keep it so hidden and look so polished. Whatever the reason is doesnt matter because in comparison to your life, they seem happier and have a better outlook than you do. I should know because Ive been on both sides of the fence. I have met people who are so happy that it seems so sweet it leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. You eventually have to walk away since theres only a certain amount of happiness that you can take before you end up gagging on yourself to try and get rid of the taste. No matter how many times you try and get rid of it, its always there and takes forever to completely wash out. On the same token, I have found myself being so fake and hospitable to people that I had to stop myself in mid-conversation and walk away. I wanted to leave a good impression on the people I was working for that I lost sight of myself and what I was trying to accomplish. At the same time, I wanted to hide away my true feelings. I didnt want anyone to know that I was scared, breakable, and capable of failure. Maybe this overly happiness trait is just a defense mechanism others use to hide their true feelings. And the last thing Id want to do is point fingers at anyone or anything, but its always good to try and find the root of how this overly happy personality came to existence in the first place. I realize that you are accountable for your own actions and how you live your life. But you cant help and think about what other factors have created these so called perfect people, myself included. Working in customer service for almost a decade has contributed to the person I am today and is why I am so marketable as a person. I was always taught that the customer is right, even if theyre yelling at you so close that spit ends up landing on some part of your face or if they just feel like treating you like crap. You rights as a human being are taken away once you put on that uniform and you turn into a machine that performs the same repetitive functions every day. You soon forget to have your own ideas, thoughts, and opinions as you perfect yourself to the superstar employee you were meant to be. In conclusion, our society and environment definitely has an impact on shaping who we are as people and how we act individually and together as a working force, but it is also important to realize that society alone cannot give us our own identity. |
